Love Languages Apply to Children Too
By now, we’ve all heard of the 5 love languages as described in in Gary Chapman, Ph.D’s best-selling book, The Five Love Languages: (1) Words of Affirmation, (2) Acts of Service, (3) Receiving Gifts, (4) Quality Time, (5) Physical Touch.
We’re used to thinking of these love languages exclusively in the context of romantic relationships, but you can apply these ideas in all relationships. When thinking of the needs of your children, knowing their love language can be a huge help.
Words of Affirmation – If this is your child’s love language, your words are extremely important. Both your praise and your criticism. Take care to be aware of both.
Acts of Service – This can often be misconstrued as neediness in children. A child that often asks for you to do even simple tasks for them might have acts of service as their main love language.
Receiving Gifts – Children of this love language cherish the things they are given. They remember who it was from, what it was for and they may attach deep meaning to items they are given as well as have difficulty giving or throwing them away.
Quality Time – A child who values this love language might ask you to play with them a lot or come and find you to see what you are up to. They might demand your undivided attention or even be satisfied with being in close proximity to you as you both do your own thing.
Physical Touch – This might be your child’s love language if they are constantly in your space and clingy. Affirm this love language with frequent hugs and physical affection.
Learn more about Children and their love languages from the book Gary Chapman, Ph. D co-wrote, aptly titled, The Five Love Languages of Children.
