Getting Back To Fun

Divorce and separation takes a lot from you, money and emotional stability are a few that are most remarked on. But potentially one of the most important is our social life: we stop seeing friends and family as we get bogged down beneath court proceedings and custody litigation, our favorite hobbies and hangout spots don’t spark the same joy, we feel the need to shut ourselves off from the world and hibernate. It happens even to those who are happy with their decisions to end a marriage, something tends to get left behind and may feel impossible to reclaim after all is said and done. 

    You could be facing any number of challenges before, during, and after a divorce/separation, so you’d be forgiven for neglecting your social life as you try to navigate. But with help from therapy and relying on your friends, you could re-engage with fun at your own pace.

Ask for Support.

It can feel embarrassing to reach out for help during and after a divorce, especially to friends you may have stopped talking to or hanging out with in the midst of it. The first step towards reclaiming your social life is by allowing yourself the opportunity to be vulnerable with those you can trust; know who amongst your friends and family you can trust with your emotions in conjunction with counseling. 

Healing takes time, and you’re going to need to grieve the loss of your relationship. Don’t think you have to do it alone.

Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone.

In times where you’re already going through a great change, why not do something you wouldn’t have done before? Be kind to yourself and move at your own pace, but consider engaging in activities you wouldn’t have thought to before or wanted to but felt you were disallowed from doing. Take baby steps as you move into your new hobby/activity; you don’t have to become an expert or become engrossed in the community all at once. You’re allowed to go as slow or as fast as you want.