5 Family Wellness Exercises

Big life changes like divorce and separation have major impacts on family life. Regardless of whether or not the relationship between co-parents is civil or not or if the proceedings go relatively smooth, families often encounter high levels of stress and anxiety during these times. This is why it’s so important to remember to step back and check in with each member of the family, especially the children, to make sure everyone is processing in healthy ways. The best way to ensure that you’re healing as a family is by practicing wellness together; co-parents can work through these exercises individually with their children if they deem it better to do so.

1. Regular Family Check-Ins

Don’t be afraid to ask your kids how they’re feeling, because odds are they may be struggling to come to grips with what’s happening. Young children especially may have an issue articulating the complex feelings that come with processing their parents’ divorce, so be sure to practice patience when they find it hard to speak up; as a suggestion to break the ice, go grab a treat with them or broach the subject lightly over a game you can play together. With older kids and teens, be sure to remind them that you are a safe person to open up to about how they’re feeling; sometimes the first step is assuring them that they can speak freely without judgement. Teens and older kids are a lot like cats when it comes to tough subjects: they’re more open when you allow them to come to you. However you go about it, be honest and encourage honesty from your children.

2. Meditate Together

Sometimes we all just need to take a moment and breathe. Once or twice a day, make a habit of sitting quietly with your children. You can have a more traditional approach to meditation by organizing a clean space on the floor with some soothing music to accompany you, or you can simply sit together in silence. Do what makes you feel comfortable, but be intentional: let them know that you want them to enjoy quiet time with you.  

3. Family Self-Care

Self-care can be done in many different ways, and this flexibility allows you to include your children. Whether you have an at-home spa day, go out to the park, or whatever your family decides— make sure you’re doing something that you all can enjoy!

4. Make Time

In the bustle of divorce proceedings, custody arrangements, and separation, you may find your attention torn away from yourself; in a similar fashion, your children could be dealing with any number of stressors during this time that contribute them alienating themselves. No matter how you do it, make time for family.

5. Practice Gratitude

When times are tough and a little bit uncertain, it can be helpful to remind yourself of the things you’re grateful for. Sit down with your children and make a list of things you all are thankful for.